Flip Flops Just Married

How many people spend more time on planning the wedding ceremony?

than the actual marriage itself and getting prepared ? I can't for the life of me figure out why people are going into all this debt or their parents are for a ceremony that last 10 t 15 minutes than have a big party afterwards when most of these marriages that had 20k weddings will end in divorce since the divorce rate is over 50 percent.

I know everyone wants a fairytale wedding, the wedding doesnt matter if the marriage isn't prepared or strong. I got married on the beach, 40.00 wedding dress( still elegant and beautiful), 5.00 shoes from kmart, hubbys suit 80.00, flip flops 2.00 from kmart. Buffett at local restuarant 3.50 per person. been married going on 15 yrs.

Dont say ugly hateful things, im just curious how much time have these brides to be or grooms to be have spent on getting ready for the actual marriage, cause living together is just playing house, once you are married cosmic forces changes things,lol your views ?

I agree with you must work on the marraige first and worry about the ceremony later. Hubby and I were more concerned with making our relationship stronger and ready for marraige than we were about what cake we were gonna serve! lol

We were together 3 yrs before we were married. We went down some really rough roads..together and luckily we made it back up those roads still together; not everyone is that lucky. That showed us just how strong our relationship was. Now, I also have to say that the only part of our marraige that we would not compromise on was that God be involved in it. We both had been married at a JP before (NO OFFENSE TO THOSE WHO WERE ALSO MARRIED BY A JP...)and it just did not feel right for us to go that route. Those other marraiges we knew, deep in our hearts, would not last. So, we pretty much turned the whole thing over to my mom...who was way too happy to do it. lol

The only thing we did make sure we had control over was our vows and the prayer that was said during the ceremony.

Mom had a blast planning and throwing our wedding and reception...which was just a big ole BBQ! My dress was under $50..hubby did not even wear a suit..and he "forgot" his tie at home even! lol Mom and I made all the flowers and invites, with help from friends. That just seemed to make it all the more personal...there was no spotlight on how much things cost..it was just all about our wedding and being together.

What made it special for us was that we were able to share our special day with the family and friends we love and adore.

Licence to Kill (1989)